Tuesday, March 6, 2012

Pursuing Holiness, Not Happiness, in Marriage

We all want to be happy. In fact, many people think they deserve to be happy. In their quest for happiness, they end relationships when they feel that the other person is no longer meeting their needs. However, when we enter into the marriage covenant, we promise to honor our vows and stick with our spouse "for better or for worse, for richer or poorer, in sickness and in health...til' death do us part." 

Yet, you will not always be happy with your spouse. 

He will annoy you by leaving the toilet seat up or spraying the bathroom mirror with toothpaste spit.
He will frustrate you by mistaking your need for affection or conversation with a desire for romance.
He will upset you by forgetting your birthday or not picking up on the subtle hints about a certain gift you want.
He will mistake your silence for agreement and go forward with his plans. 

He will forget.
He will misunderstand.
He will mess up.
He will not always make you happy, even if he tries really hard.

Our husbands, just like us, are imperfect people. Yet, as wives we are called to love and serve our husbands in spite of their shortcomings and differences. We are called to pursue holiness by being the very best wives we can be. We are called to subordinate our own desire for happiness to our pursuit of holiness. No, that is not an easy task or even a popular one by the world's standards. But that is God's will for marriages.

Do you struggle with giving up "what makes me feel good" with "doing what God has called me to"?

These thoughts come from my response to a marriage seminar session held by Danny Camp, D. Min.

I'm praying God's richest blessings on you and your marriage as you continue to grow in His glory!


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1 comment:

  1. This is a new challenge to me that God gave marriage as a way of teaching holiness (Sacred Marriage). I am looking at what it means to be married afresh. Life hasn't turned out the way I expected and I wonder if I am striving after something in my marriage that will never be there, but there are different lessons to learn about following Jesus, perhaps more important ones. Hope your thoughts and searching/sharing progresses well.